auburn boy do i know how u feel.the saying being in a crowded room and yet feeling so alone is an understatement to put it mildly.more like living in a very empty world.the saying if you cant beat them join them springs to mind. its not that you want to its just easier that way.my husband has aspergers. we have been married for more than thirty years and ive only just discovered this.to say im relieved must be the biggest understatement ever.MY HUG BANK IS VERY EMPTY.
Apr 17, 2010 Rating
TELL HIM by: Robert Markham
Tell him you need a hug. We Aspergers do not know what you need unless you tell us. We are more than willing to provide it when you do. Asperger's is a condition you cannot change. But as a neurotypical you can learn to have all your needs met by the Asperger husband by understanding more about it.
Things that seem simple to you can be very complex for your husband. Unless you help him to understand what is important to you -- and why -- it will not be possible for him to do.
Women imparticular are very confusing to the Asperger male. We don't understand why you need something one minute and the next minute you are angry at us for doing the same thing. We run for the neutral zone and do nothing because we are confused and don't know what to do. Then you think we don't care -- but we do. We just don't know how to show it. What worked yesterday doesn't work today and we can't make any sense of it. We would rather be safe than sorry.
Mar 09, 2010 Rating
Hugs by: Anonymous
I have just been made aware of the possibility of Aspergers in my husband and I completely understand what you mean about needing a 'hug'.
I have been searching the internet for the last week and feel so alone, don't want to talk to family about it or close friends as I feel I would be betraying him.
