Unlike a lot of other teens with autism spectrum disorders, most Asperger teens want to interact socially and have friends.
The lack of social skills can be learned by these teens but their inability to pick up nonverbal signs, “read “ others behavior and poor communication skills makes it hard for them to be successful.
They may feel different and can experience anxiety when approaching other teens, always wondering why they have such a hard time fitting in. Trying to fit in can be a frustrating process and teens with Aspergers can be drained emotionally from this. It can cause anxiety or
and may lead to social withdrawal. They may also be immature for their age, too naive and too trusting, which makes them an easy target for teasing and bullying.
Some teens may be shy or intimidated, talk too little and are extremely sensitive to criticism and need continual reassurance. They may think that the things that others do accidentally (such as bumping into them) are done deliberately to upset them.
Other Aspies can be blunt, interrupt their peers and take over a conversation to talk about their area of personal interest.
If they have been diagnosed earlier it is possible for them to learn social skills if they feel accepted within their peer group. Most Asperger teens are able to develop
Challenges in school
Asperger Teens develop their thinking and learning skills at an unusual age or in an unusual way because their brain processes information differently. This means they can excel in some abilities like language, vocabulary, math or music but are delayed in other areas. They may have problems with authority figures such as teachers. The ins and outs of Asperger Syndrome from an authentic point of view are described in the book by Luke Jackson. I can highly recommend this book for every teen with Aspergers or parents with Asperger teens. It is fun to read and to find out how the mind of an Asperger teens works in a different way. It will make you understand your teen better, I know it worked for me!
Teens with Asperger Syndrome need an intellectual challenge and show low tolerance for ordinary homework or mediocre tasks. It can be frustrated for them to be regarded by teachers as poor performers or arrogant only because they do not feel challenged in school. Sometimes their delay in motor skills will effect their handwriting so much they resent written assignments.
Most teens are able to overcome their lack in social skills and learn these skills intellectually rather then intuitively. I believe many Asperger Teens have much going for them:
Asperger teens are typically uninterested in following social norms, fads, or conventional thinking. They are original and creative thinkers and are in persuit for original interests and goals. Their preference for rules and honesty may lead them to excel in the classroom since many of their advanced abilities are in the gifted range. Their narrow area of interest can make them experts in their field. They can be talented and enjoy academic success. Their dedication and commitment makes them driven to perform well in school.
Many great scientists, writers and artists are thought to have had Asperger syndrome, including many Nobel Prize winners.
Read an article on my own Asperger Teen and his goal of reaching